MegaDrivel

I’m ok with that, sometimes. I think I live as an extrovert but charge my batteries as an introvert.

This morning I am literally stopping doing several important things and taking pause.  Family situations always affect us.  We are never immune from family issues.  We may compartmentalize or cope but we are never immune.

Yesterday I learned that some current family situations involve making some very difficult decisions.  Sometimes those decisions are incredibly difficult because of the consequences and because of the unknown.

It is very important – vital – to manage our own situations and to know that boundaries are valid survival tools.  When we say no to someone, it is our own decision and it is ok if others may not agree.

My approach to dealing with stress like this has not always been healthy.  In my particular situation, I am not the person who has to exercise boundaries to an extreme level.  However, this situation has brought back many emotions and many debilitating feelings.  To deal with that, I need to stop, to take pause, to breath, to listen and then to act.

Sometimes the action is to do nothing.  With stress involved, this does not feel ok or healthy.  But, it can be and it just may be exactly what is needed.  So, right now, for the time it has taken me to write this, I pause.  I reflect.  I focus on breathing and relaxing.  And, I do nothing.  This is hard.

I’m keeping this blog very, very simple. Hopefully, it will always stay that way. On the other hand, Tweblog.com (my geek blog) is looking a little bit like Christmas.

UPDATE:  I removed the Christmas theme (It even included falling snow!) because I was also in the process of rebranding that blog.  I thought about deleting this post and just decided I’d update it instead.  Oh well… it’s a life in flux!